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Marriage/Divorce

OK, I've got two female friends who got married.

One decided to get married on the level of heart because she didn't want to deal with legal matters (prenup etc.). She didn't like the idea of a marriage as a legal contract but rather as a union between two souls. After some time, she and her "husband" realized it ain't working and he decided they should separate. Out of good heart, he agreed to financially support my friend one full year after they split up. She feels he betrayed her since he promised to be married untill death do us part. They've had religious ceremony only.

The other friend got married out of convinience, with mutual understanding: Since she's got certain issue that marriage would take care of, they've decided to do it to solve that issue and if the love developed and relationship really bloomed into full blown marriage, great! If not, well, too bad. In this case, the prenup didn't even cross their minds. Now, here's the problem. Since they've both realized their relationship is going nowhere, it's inevitable they are going to separate and eventualy divorce.

Since we live in sunny Cali where marital laws are a bit more flexible than in other states...

What do you think, is it better to get legaly married, sign a prenup and live happily ever after, or follow your heart, forget about the legal contractual details and live happily ever after...

... or not?

Where's the fine line between contractual and spiritual love? And can they exist side by side?

Are you a Golddigger?

While I was waiting in line to get to the theater I had an opportunity to meet some interesting people. One of the girls said that from now on she's going to be a golddiger. She's not going to be wasting her time anymore.

According to the Urban Dictionary a "golddigger" is any woman whose primary interest in a relationship is material benefits. A woman who cares more about a man's bank account than she does about the man.

Although the times have changed, in general, it is still expected from a man to be able to provide for a woman. If a woman is expecting from a man to be the provider, does that make her a golddigger?

Obama Vs. Mc Cain

I went to pick up my frind's 8 year old son from the surf camp and on the way back he
mentioned President Bush and new presidential candidates. He decided that he's going to vote for Obama. He does not like Mc Cain because he is old and fat and because he is going to listen to
President Bush and his advice if he won the election. He declared he really likes Obama but didn't elaborate.

My question is: Do we need to have more information about a person or is it enough to see them and make conclusion based on their appearance? I mean, MC Cain is old and fat but that does not prevent him from being a good President, right? On the other hand, we've got handsome but less experienced Obama... Who would you choose?

Jesse Jackson and the "N" word

OK, Here's the thing. I say stoopid things, you probably have the same experience here and there. What I don't inderstand is why is it hard to accept responsibility for our own words or actions.

As we know, Jesse Jackson has worked his but off to make sure we don't use the "N" word
and he even tried to burry it in a ceremony, but then, he says it out loud in a private conversation. And, that's OK in a way, because, it is socially accepted that African-Americans can and do use the "N" word and it has a different meaning than if it was said by a Caucaisan man. You don't need a History lesson on this subject...

So, he said it... Now, he's playing games of not being aware of saying it. My question is: Since it's on tape, we've seen it and heard it, Why can't Mr. Jackson admit his own action? Instead, he chooses to jump on a "Damage Control" bandwagon trying to prevent the tape from leaking out.
Why? What is he trying to hide? And, in the end, what's wrong with admiting your own mistakes?